Bereavement support

The death of a child is one of the most difficult times in anyone's life and we know it is important for a family to have both pre- and post-bereavement support. 

How can you help me?

We’re here for you, whether you need emotional support or advice on practical matters that need doing, such as registering your child’s death and helping to arrange their funeral. Before death, we can support parents, brothers and sisters as well as the wider family and friends, offering ways to understand and come to terms with what is happening. When a child dies, we can be there for you and your family for as long as you need us, helping you to reflect and share memories.

Can my child die at Keech Hospice Care?

IMG 4963Yes, and we will be there to offer the best care and support for your child and your family. We will do everything we can to
ensure the final days are as peaceful and pain free as possible.

We have a special bedroom called the Meadow Suite at the hospice, where your child can stay after their death right up
until their funeral, if you wish for them to. The Meadow Suite
is a place where your family and friends can spend time with
your child. It is available to anyone, if their child dies at home,
at hospital or the hospice.

Care at home quoteI want my child to die at home, can you help?

Yes, of course. Whether you choose to spend those final, special days with your child at the hospice or at home, we can be there and we will support you. Our community care team is on hand, day and night, with 24-hour advice and support. We will continue to support you, your family and friends after death, too.

How long will you help us for?

We will support you, your family and friends for as long as you need us. Over the months or years ahead, our care team will be there at the other end of the phone, and will come and see you in your home, too, if you need us.

Is there support for brothers and sisters?

Sparklers groupYes, there’s Sparklers. This is a pre- and post-bereavement support group for children aged 5 to 18 years old. Sparklers runs every month on a Saturday and is a great way of using fun and play to help explore feelings and share stories.

Inevitably, healthy brothers and sisters can feel left out as their parents focus on the life-limited child. They may experience feelings of guilt, anxiety or neglect and it is important that they have access to specialised support to help them address these feelings.

Are there any support groups for parents?

There is Parents Supporting Parents, which is for mums and dads who have a child who is cared for by us. Parents get a lot from the group and from meeting others who are going through the same as they are. The group meets at Heywood House in Luton from 11am to 3pm, on the last Saturday of the month. 

There is also one-to-one support for those who prefer to talk to one person. Our family support worker and bereavement visitors (volunteers trained to support people affected by death) can see people individually, in a mutually agreed place – including at home - and at a convenient time. 

Do you hold remembrance events?Bereavement services

Yes, we have two remembrance events during the year.

Daffodil Sunday is a family service held in May and Light Up a Life is a
special service which is open to anyone and held at the hospice in
December. You can dedicate a light on our hospice Christmas tree in
memory of your loved one and the tree is lit for the first time at the service. 

Tribute sites

Today, more and more families are expressing their feelings and memories about the life of their child online. We work with memorial web charity MuchLoved to help you create a dedicated tribute site on the internet

How do I find out more?

Please speak to our bereavement support workers on 01582 492339 or email: sandrews@keech.org.uk. Find out more about bereavement support in our family guide.

Helpful links:

Find out about our Light Up a Life service

Read how Children in Need helps us support Harry and Sophie

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